Intercaste marriages: Still a taboo in Pakistani society

Though our society is awash with social disparities and discrepancies around different lines, but the outrageous or perhaps inhuman manifestation of this vice lies in marital relations which we are supposed to establish only inside our caste. So deplorable!
While living in 21^st century which is marked with extreme human wisdom, we turn to be so narrow and even resort to bloodshed in this matter.

Is it not ethically, humanly and religiously unfair that an educated girl or boy of a low caste has no other option except marring any illiterate person of his/her clan? This ‘culture’, which most of our ignorant people are proud of, is widespread around
the nation, especially in rural communities where the populace of low caste, which are also known as Kamis (slaves), can never even think of intermingling with high caste social groups.

It is the reason you see most of the young and educated girls of low caste families unmarried despite getting overage, simply because they are not accepted by the so-called civilized society. The same goes with the boys.

What a bullshit norm this is that we gauge others on the basis on what their forefathers had been doing and how they were named. Why do we forget that they are the same humans as we, no difference is there.  

If we remember, our Prophet (PBUH) clearly stated that all these caste, clans and tribes are made just for identification, and all human beings of all classes, areas and ethnic groups are equal. But how can we keep such human realties in our minds when our
pseudo egos and statues quos are dearer to us than anything else in this world.

How stupid it seems in a ‘rationale’ world that, first of all, we ask about caste of a boy/girl while pursuing marriage process. The appalling reality is that this insane concept is not merely confined to illiterate and rural classes, rather it is also found
among some of the ‘educated’ and ‘cultured’ families of urban areas. What nonsense!

Another awful thing is our attitude towards intercaste love affairs. It will be illogical to deny the fact that love is as natural as our lives. If a young guy of a low caste family fall in love with a girl of high clique and wants to marry her, our society
consider it to be a great ‘sin’ and does not even hesitates to take the life of that boy. This happens just because the boy has no power to return to God and request Him to resend him in some high caste.

Believe me, this killing tradition is a big hurdle in the way of our social, economic, ethical and mental progress. If we want to create a cohesive, peaceful and prosperous society, we will have to curb this trend. If it goes on unabated, we can never climb
up on the ladder of human development. Let us lit the first candle and start this change from our homes. I, despite being the only son of a high-caste landlord family, pledge to initiate it from myself. Join hands with me.

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Posted by Sharjeel Ahmad on Nov 4 2011. Filed under Opinion. You can follow any responses to this entry through the RSS 2.0. You can leave a response or trackback to this entry