Carnage of Love

Let’s be honest, how many of us have had relationships or commitments that have gone long? 20 percent or may be less I guess. Most of us have had a hard knock leading us to believe in the fact that in our society, it is better
to go by what our parents suggest rather than opposing our parents to marry the girl/boy we love.

Well if we look at a larger perspective, we are not opposing our parents; rather we are opposing a society that does not encourage the so called new generation to make their own decisions regarding marriage. Well there is a little
misunderstanding in this matter.

Yes! There are cases where parents want their son/ daughter to marry in family or in their cast; however, parents tend to bend their decisions over their child’s will. Nowadays, parents do not see love marriage as a bad thing.
Rather it is thought that a grown up person has the right to choose whoever he/she wishes to marry.

However, in some cases parents are stick to their own decisions. That is fine as well, yet sometimes parents need to understand that there might be consequences of pushing their child against their choice. A world where everyone
watches movies that encourage love and relationships, boys and girls of this era are strongly bound to their commitments. Strong enough to go against their parents will and make decisions that lead to shame or even worse.

A similar story relates to a guy and a girl of Lahore committed to each other and willing to marry each other as well. Falling in love when in school, Shams ul Islam and Samar Wasti went in two separate institutions after school.
However, they still were together before Samar’s parents said no to Shams’s proposal and ended in leading him to take desperate measures.

Shams went to Samar’s college, Kinnaird College, Lahore and called her outside for one final meeting. Trying to make her agree on a runaway marriage was not so successful, made Shams more aggressive. Failing to hold his emotions,
Shams pulled out a gun shot Samar in the head and then killed himself on the spot.

What looked like a story of love, ended with two dead bodies lying side by side coloured red. Yes, some say the boy was a ‘phycopath’, however, what he did might as well be a mishandled situation. May be if the parents sat down
with the two and made them understand the reasons or might as well agree to their wants, they would’ve seen their children happy or not but alive.

Blaming the guy is something that won’t bring the two of them back rather changing the mentality of our parents would lessen the number of people hurting themselves or others. There are plenty of us who have done silly things such
as cutting out wrists, or planned to run away just because our parents do not let us make our own choice. However, that is not the answer this problem.

I do not support the actions of Shams rather I believe that every person has their own way of handling stress and most of the parents do not know to manage that. And last but not the least, there is a great need for us youngsters
to stop getting manipulated by movies and drama series that show rather teach young ones less good more wrong techniques to get something that they want. 

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Posted by Khayyam Bokhari on Nov 14 2011. Filed under Opinion, Society. You can follow any responses to this entry through the RSS 2.0. You can leave a response or trackback to this entry