Suspicion: A Relationship Destroyer

Suspicion: A Relationship Destroyer

Maintaining a relationship, whether it is between friends, family or even man and wife, is never easy and requires compromise, love and care.

Nowadays, it is becoming more and more common that we see different people severing their relations with either friends and family or their husband or wives. It is not hard to notice that there is one common factor in each of these damaged relationships,
which is ultimately the cause of such things happening and that is suspicion.

Relationships can in no way prosper, grow or be maintained if there is any sort of mistrust or suspicion involved.

There is a famous saying that suspicion is the root of all evil because when you suspect someone doing something, especially when it’s wrong, you actually start believing yourself and the things you hear from other people.

One who would like to keep ties with a specific person due to being bound in marriage, blood relation or friendship; will never look to cut affairs just on the basis of suspecting something is going wrong. The person would rather prefer investigating the
situation either by confirming the suspicions or sit down and talk in a mature and civilised manner instead of fighting and breaking it up right then and there.

Since most of us base our actions purely on emotions rather than logic, fighting due to baseless accusations can have severe consequences with irreversible results.

We would also not like to see the one we really love hurt in any way either by us or by any other person, so taking proper precautionary steps before actually doing something is always better in order to avoid further complications.

If you believe that there is something wrong happening in the life of another loved one, there are a few simple steps that could make life much easier and the relationship longer lasting if followed. They are:

1.      Think over the idea. Do you really think that what you suspect is actually happening and could there be another side to the story that you might have thought up in your head or heard from someone else?

2.      Try and think about how long you have known the other person and if whatever you suspect is something he/she really could be doing.

3.      Instead of invading privacy, something which every human being is entitled to in this life, try and talk about the problem you are facing with that person in a cool and simple manner instead of raging out your emotions  along with verbal or even
physical abuse, both of which are never the answer to any problem.

4.      If after conversation, there turns out to be an issue, discuss and think about why the other would want to do something like that, you may even be the cause of that but failed to realise until now.

5.      Let the other individual know that you will practically stay the same after hearing the truth, even if he/she discloses that there is something happening which they are not proud of.

6.      If it is something unbearable and nothing seems to be working out anymore, leaving the tables unturned would be the best idea and moving on would obviously be tough, but the best option, because fighting has never benefitted anyone before and it
certainly will not now.

In the end, suspicion can be right and it can also be wrong, it is just a matter of how you approach the situation which decides how it will all turn out. Confronting such issues with a cool head and forgiveness in the heart is the sure and successful way
to go about such problems. Always remember, every relationship, everywhere in the world faces problems at some point or the other, which means that you surely are not alone.  

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Posted by Syed Hassan Bokhari on Nov 15 2011. Filed under Editorial, Opinion, Society. You can follow any responses to this entry through the RSS 2.0. You can leave a response or trackback to this entry