When Parents Fight
Monday, July 16th, 2012 2:02:41 by Syed Hassan Bokhari
When Parents Fight
Parents might not realise the fact that when they fight, the only ones that are getting hurt are their children who have to be a witness to the fact that two grown, mature individuals, cannot deal with each other’s problems in a grownup sort of way.
Children of all ages, whether there below the age of 10 or over 20, feel the same way at every point when parents fail to reach a mutual agreement on any problem they face.
The biggest problem arises when parents seek the approval from their children, putting them in the worst possible position as to choose which side they are on and for most siblings that choice is the toughest they will ever have to make.
Due to such tensions in the house, we see that children grow up to become broken adults and have a mindset that desires love and guidance from those who we believe to be our role models, our parents. Parents do not realise that each and every move of theirs is always being noted by their kids and what they today will always be a part of their memory.
If there are irreconcilable differences between two individuals, they need to be worked out in such a manner that the children do not get directly involved, because there is never a favourite parent of any child, because both mean everything and one is incomplete without the other.
The past is something that is always a part of every argument since when the verbal abuse does start between a couple, all skeletons are dug out of the closet and most people end up saying things which they never meant to and have already treaded down a dark alley with no way out.
Always think twice about what you say to your loved one since only time can heal the wounds created by words and no one knows how long that will take, if it ever does happen that is. When arguing over something as small as money, always consider the fact and remember how much time you have spent with that other person before making a decision that might change your life and the lives of loved ones around you in an instant.
There is only so much time that people will be spending together in this world and living it in constant hate, regret of the past and dissatisfaction of the present will not get anyone anywhere. Kids need their parents and obviously, parents need their children but with time and age, one should be wise enough to know that fighting does not do anyone good.
Households break apart and children are forced to live in separate worlds and often develop multiple personalities if they manage not to breakdown completely. One for dealing with the outer world and one for dealing with the heartbreaking situation under their own roof.
Parents, when you do have differences on any matter, be it financial, family related or something that happened in the past, try to show some respect for each other and remember as humans, everyone has skeletons in the closet but keeping them there shows your love and commitment to the other.
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well chosen topic .. would like to know the author, and would like to go further ahead from this stage of problem realization. E.g. next step can be problem identification, synthesis, determination of cause-and-effect or correlations among variables due to which this phenomena occurs, and lastly list of solutions for separate cases.
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The kids should study Quran and Qute the reference from it Allah says i is Shatan who make dispute between hasband and wife.
Secondly they should learn a lesson that they would not fight in their married life.
A simple issue not a big problem
phases of life as son, father,mother etc. and the every body learns in this world and learning process goes on in life span. Rightly said when disturbance occurs in your home definitely hurts but if we take it as association of different people then we will realize that it is a common and usual thing is this living system like parliaments, courts,businesses etc. people argue, discuss even fight and resolve their issues in so many different ways, house or home is also the place where people associate with each other in different relations and relations demands there rights and then different questions, yes or no comes and this what life is.we all should help each other to come to the right.especially in the home association responsibility comes on all grown ups equally without differentiation son, daughter, father or mother etc etc.