The lost intimacy

Extramarital affairs have become a common practice in our society. We often come across stories of disturbed relationships where small misunderstandings lead to great damages. There are many reasons involved in such variation issues.

Lifeline Campaign, an initiative for the education and awareness of society regarding (Sexual and Reproductive Health Rights) SRHR identifies the root cause of lost intimacy in relations. It affirms that a distorted relationship can have devastating effect
on the spouse of the devious partner.

Lost intimacy in relations is a tricky issue that involves various reasons, some are related to the nature of people and others are due to the lack of bonding between partners. Having said that, it is important to understand that there are complex reasons
responsible for extramarital connections and each of it is different from the other.

A non compatible match is one of the biggest issues; it plays the role of a catalyst in bringing the integration down. Forced marriages and lack of compatibility usually leads to a confused relationship.

If the relation has too many responsibilities or if the communication between the two people falls apart, it so forth results in exchanges other than the approved ones. Finances, sharing, intimacy, religion are all important issues which if not dealt vigilantly
lead to a dead relationship.

Low self esteem faced by either of the spouse also becomes a reason for snag. When partners don’t give weightage to each other’s presence, they are driven to feel companionship and love in persons other than their partners. Cherishing small moments help
develop strong relations.

Lifeline Campaign in this context has been collecting reviews from various religious sects of Pakistan. As per Qurban Ali Tausali, Quetta’s venerated review, “Our religion is a complete way of life, it teaches us about harmony and love. Young couples should
live according to the teachings of Quran and Sunnah. ”

It is said that the initial excitement fades away easily. A self catharsis and realization towards the importance of relations can help bring the child like love back. In today’s materialistic world, words like happiness have also been changed.

Now we seek happiness only when life is at its full swing, most of the times it is seen that weaker relations fade away with darker phases. We need to work as supporters of all seasons, relationships bloom only when in agony and pain.

Some other issues that can cause people to seek love, companionship outside the nuptials include mid life crisis. Mental problems, physical problems and other life changing events can also affect a relationship and cause people to seek love outside the marriage.

Mr. Mubarak Hussain, a clinical psychologist comments that “issues increase only when they are ignored and ”. It is a total betrayal of trust and faith to lean back from one’s important relations. Partners, especially husband and wife are said to be the
mirror image of each other that have the tendency to live together till eternity.

Fear, sexual abstinence are some of the few effects of extramarital affairs. All such concerns can be solved with discussion and catharsis, Identifying issues in the marriage and seeking counseling can help in problems associated with marital affairs.

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Posted by Rana Nasir Ghafoor on Dec 8 2012. Filed under Education, Pakistan, Society. You can follow any responses to this entry through the RSS 2.0. You can leave a response or trackback to this entry